Confusing question

There is one adoption question that always makes me pause.  I'm not offended by it because I really truly understand what people are intending to say, but for whatever reason it never ceases to catch me off guard.

It is some variant of:
And do you have your own kids?
or
Are any of them your own?

I know what people are meaning to ask - they are asking how many children we have that are biological and how many are adopted.  I think Phil and I both believe that it's better to answer any question with grace - the way we'd want to be treated.  We'd rather people have the freedom to ask questions than to worry about a harsh or flippant response.  We don't want to teach our kids to be rude either.

So our answer usually is just a subtle correction.

We have 3 biological children and 1 adopted child.

I can usually hear Phil's voice saying And we love each of them.

We welcome people's questions.  And for the most part understand that sometimes ignorance is going to make people not know the "acceptable" way to ask their question, but that's why they need to ask, so it's important to have grace and not be defensive.  I find that I often times DON'T ask the question I'm thinking because I don't know if it would be offensive.  So I respect that some people are brave enough to ask, even if it isn't perfect.  :)